Red Flags in the First Message

Sometimes, you usually find out which clients you're better off avoiding right from first contact. You needn’t simply rely on gut instinct, either. There are seven (7) telltale signs that you may be engaging a suspicious client. These are:

Refusal to Give a Name or Any Verifiable Detail

The escort industry is, by its very nature, discreet and clandestine. However, that isn’t to mean that you can’t share or provide any information at all. When a client refuses to provide something as simple as their name, they may be protecting more than just their privacy.

If you want to fulfil all righteousness, you may press them a little, politely. You could explain to them why such details are crucial. If they still won’t budge, move on.

Pressure to Meet Immediately

Then, there are those clients that take you like a blitz. They want to meet up almost from the very second that they make contact.

• “I’m right around the corner.”
• “I want you right now.”
• “You have to come now or later.”

Indeed, some clients may be overcome by nervousness and excitement, hence such a reaction. However, a few people take this approach intentionally. The place is to disorientate the escort with their rapid-fire requests.

Since you’re in a hurry, you may not put the security measures you normally would in place. You mightn’t even question where you’re headed until it’s too late.

You mustn’t ever put yourself in such a position.

Haggling on Price Before Anything Else

Price is always a valid talking point when engaging prospective clients. Having said that, there are ways that this subject can be broached that show respect and genuine intention.

If the first thing that the patron brings up is your service rate, that may be a warning flag. If they continue to haggle relentlessly, that’s your cue to end that conversation. Individuals like that have a tendency to objectify models.

Falling into such hands would make for a truly awful encounter, at best.

Pushing to Move Off-Platform Instantly

Getting certified on reputable escort directories might seem like a chore. Not only that, at first glance, the feature appears like it’s geared toward only reassuring clients. But the reality is that it offers you protection, too.

As a registered member of a legit adult model listing, you get certain basic protections. For example, top websites automatically screen out certain content sent by clients that might be offensive/fraudulent. Other platforms even offer features for enhanced payment security.

When a patron tries to lure you from such a safety net, it isn’t because they’re well-intentioned. More often than not, these individuals are looking for easy prey to exploit.

Asking About Services in Explicit Terms Before Basics are Settled

There are unspoken rules between escorts and clients. These rules bend only a little with escort models. But with independent call girls, clients have to establish the basics, such as the model's willingness to have the encounter.

Essentially, both parties have to be comfortable with each other, at least to a degree.

Only two types of clients generally ask for explicit details before settling basic details. The first is those who have no intention of ever meeting you but instead get off on the material/content you provide. The second are individuals who search escorts and talk to them, hoping to find blackmail material.

You definitely don’t want anything to do with such people.

Refusing to Make a Deposit While Demanding Unusual Accommodations

In the escort industry, a deposit isn’t really about the funds itself. Instead, it’s a subtle declaration of intent. Additionally, whether you’re an incall or outcall model, the fact remains that you have to cover certain costs when meeting every client.

Prospective patrons who refuse to make a deposit essentially tell you all you need to know. It shows that they don’t give your services their due value. They weren’t serious from the start.

Some clients worsen the situation by demanding a certain ambiance or tool(s) at the venue. Any patron who doesn’t back up unusual accommodation requests with funds to match isn’t deserving of your time.

Inconsistencies with Client Profile

The first time you two talked, his name was Stanley. The next time, it was Gregory. Or, every so often, the client uses different contact information to get in touch. Or his stories change depending on the time of day he’s telling them.

Even if there’s no ill-intent to these actions, the truth is that such situations almost always end up murky. If you’re not up for needless drama, such patrons are better off blocked.

Deposits – What They Filter Out

There are four benefits to requesting deposits you mustn’t overlook. These are:

1. Screening Tool: Making a down payment shows intention on the part of your patron. As such transactions will be electronic, there is a clear trail to the client should anything happen to you.
2. Identifying Time-Wasters: Requiring a deposit removes you from the pool of easy targets for fake/unserious clients. It ensures that such people have something to lose, should they bail on you.
3. Covering Expenses: As I mentioned earlier, preparing for an encounter with a patron costs you something. As a professional, you shouldn’t have to cover all that expense out-of-pocket. A deposit helps with that. It also means you won’t be left with a total loss if a client cancels suddenly.
4. Sets a Professional Boundary: Finally, asking for a down payment lets prospective clients see that you know what you’re doing. It commands due respect from anyone who contacts you. It lets you know who deserves your time and attention, to begin with.

Note that to get the best results with deposits, you must use this tool properly. This means:

• Choosing a reasonable sum as your deposit benchmark.
• Stating your deposit fee clearly on your profile.
• Staying consistent with your deposit amount.
• Not making any exceptions to who pays this sum.

References and How to Check Them

Even if you’re an incall service provider operating in a familiar environment, you don’t have automatic security. You’re still engaging a complete stranger in close quarters. That’s why references are key. You must know who you’re working with.

There are several ways that you can go about this, including:

• Asking which escorts they’ve seen and reaching out to the professional.
• Running their names through the database of blacklisted clients available on reputable escort directories.
• Using third-party screening services.

“I’ve seen lots of people, trust me” is nice, but it isn’t nearly good enough.

Of course, some clients might be new to the industry and not have references. Others might be a little reluctant to give away something too personal.

The key thing is for you to observe how they respond to your request and move from there.

Verifying Identity Without Being Invasive

Every top escort listing site has a verification and badges system. That’s how patrons know they can trust you. You can perform reasonable checks as well, so you know that you can trust your client. But this can be tricky, which is why you have to proceed carefully.

Start by asking for a real name. Follow up by confirming they have a phone number that matches. Requesting a short phone call is also not a bad idea.

All things being equal, most regular patrons actually expect this level of service from you. For some of them, an escort not asking some of these questions is a red flag. All you have to do is ensure you’re respectful with your approach.

Keep a Record

You should also track every incall or outcall service you provide. It doesn’t have to be anything overly detailed, though. Basic information like the below is enough:

• Client Name
• Phone Number
• Meeting Place
• Time

Doing this is great for helping you identify repeat problems faster and more accurately. Plus, it can be invaluable, should anything go wrong.

Keep these details private, but ensure someone you trust knows where they are and can access them.

Trust Your Gut (Have an Exit Planned)

Yes, you should have more concrete sources of information than gut feeling. But you shouldn’t completely dismiss it, either.

That’s why you should always set up your encounters so you can cancel at any point, even after arrival. Also, let a friend or family member know where you’re headed. As an added measure, agree on a check-in message and what time it’s to be sent.

If a client passes all your checks and you still feel that seeing them is a bad idea, don’t ignore that feeling.

Cancel.

Should you go through with it, even if nothing goes wrong, you’ll likely not have a good time.

Screening Starts with Your Profile

The only thing better than knowing how to spot potentially awful clients is not having to meet such people in the first place. The first step down that road is to create a profile on the right platform.

Verified profiles show effort and intent, attracting better clients, by default. That way, you devote your valuable time to patrons who will actually book your services, not time-wasters.